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Q: Why does breast cancer get so much attention when heart disease kills so many more (non-PC Alert!!)?
Breast cancer is the disease du jour, with countless cash being spent on advertising for Susan Komen walks and stuff like that, you couldn’t find a politician who wouldn’t throw his/her support to several billion of taxpayer cash being thrown at it because to not do so would be political suicide. However, if saving lives was really the main concern, heart disease should be the main benefactor, since it is our number one killer. It makes breast cancer and AIDS look like child’s play.
My hunch is that breast cancer is a much more profitable disease to market. Also, I would like to pre-empt anyone saying heart disease is a matter of choice. It isn’t. While diet and exercise are certainly factors, genetics play the biggest role and if your dad died of heart disease in his 40s you are at serious risk.
With all due respect, most heart disease really is genetic. Millions of obese slobs are sitting on the couch eating everything in sight today, while millions of people who treated their bodies like temples are six feet under. And it’s all due to heart disease, America’s number one killer.

A: because MOST heart disease is preventable, there is no “prevention” of breast cancer.

You must be gay, because most men want women to keep their breasts

Q: How come breast cancer gets so much attention when others don’t?
I’m not saying breast cancer is not a horrible ailment but there are worse cancer’s and worse diseases but it seems to get more attention then others. One of the most common diseases no one does events for “asthma” for example and yes people do die from it. I’m saying we shouldn’t have events for breast cancer I’m just wondering why it gets so much attention when others do not.

A: its the more common cancer that MEN and women have. the events are to raise money for a cure for people like my mom and mother n law that had it thank you very much

Q: Why does breast cancer get so much publicity?
I think all types of cancer need to be given attention in the media. Why is there such a disproportionate focus on breast cancer? Also, does anyone feel that it’s wrong to be using a serious illness to market products?

A: It started with people truly concerned with research and development. They did a wonderful job, bringing the cancer to people’s attention.

The present Barbie-pink campaigns are commercialised and depend on dubious statistics and scare campaigns.

Q: Why does it seem like breast cancer is the only type of cancer anyone cares about?
It seem as though breast cancer gets so much more attention than any other type of cancer. I realize that it is the most common but does that mean it is the most important? I went to a cancer support walk (to raise money because my father died of colon cancer) and I can’t even describe how much emphasis was put on breast cancer and no other types. I’m sorry if this sounds a little ignorant, I don’t mean it to sound that way at all. It just confuses me.

A: “Is The Most Common”? I thought there were many more likely chances of cancer than breast cancer?

I think it is because of a couple of factors:

1. Men like boobies and anything that threatens the boobies must be destroyed!
2. Breast Cancer seems to have a high mortality rate.
3. When a woman loses a breast, even if it is reconstructed, women don’t feel like women anymore because so much pressure is put on a woman’s breasts… It isn’t uncommon for a husband/boyfriend to stop having sex with a woman that has had a Mastectomy.

Oh, and you can’t point fingers at a person with breast cancer…

Lung Cancer?
“Oh, they SO DESERVE it… They should have known better than to smoke!”

“Oh, they didn’t smoke? They shouldn’t have spent so much time in BARS getting exposed to 2nd hand smoke… They should have known better…”

You can’t say “Oh, well, she should have… It must be her own fault.” when it comes to breast cancer.

(BTW, people get lung cancer all the time and not always from smoking, that is just the most well known cause.)

Q: Why do women’s health issues get so much more attention than men’s? Ex. Breast Cancer, Heart Disease?
Corporations use issues such as Breast Cancer Awareness and Heart Disease for Marketing campaigns and the public falls for it. Do men and children not get sick? What is awareness..how does that DO anything.

A: I think its part of the unspoken American culture in denial to not talk about men’s health issues as much as women’s. Men still have this mocheasmo that keeps them from accepting such health problems. I do think the trend is starting to fade though.

And on the flip side while health issues like prostate or testicalur cancer do not get as much publicity as women health issues – ads about male enhancement and preventing baldness are huge.

Q: Why does breast cancer get more attention than other cancers?
Breast cancer seem more well publicize to general public in particular in well developed countries which I think is great along with HIV aids as the rates of women dying from Breast cancer is alarming.

However dont you think its sort of leaving out the men?

If men are to be encouraged to see the doctors ( which at times they dont), wouldn’t it be nice if there was a national awareness week or day on certain cancers that affect and kill a lot of men such as prostate cancer?

We hear of the pink Ribbon Campaign (in Australia) and you see university’s, our harbour bridge and Oprea house lighting their lights pink for beast cancer awareness….and there’s much more.

We never see anything on this scale where there is an awareness for cancer that men suffer such as prostate or Testicular cancer which in effect sends that message out that men should suffer in silence rather than being encouraged to seek help.

So are male related cancers discriminated against in terms of the lack of awareness and support by the general public?

Some studies find that Cancer affects more men than women. So is the support disproportional?

A: The public awareness for breast cancer is being driven by private organizations and businesses. It all started with the Estee Lauder company president who just happened to have breast cancer. With her powerful backing, lobbying, and donations she encouraged thousands of other businesses to make breast cancer research a priority. And that’s what has happened. It has nothing to do with any other type of cancer. Unfortunately the backlash has harmed available funding for other types of cancer . .

Q: Why does it hurt so much?
My Mom past during the holiday’s last year of breast cancer and I can’t even think of her for a second before my body and soul starts to act up, I try to be tuff but I just can’t, I just feel so alone on the subject, I try to explain it to people I trust and love but I feel like they are not even listening to me, I don’t know what to expect from them or even know what I am looking for I just wish that there was something there to make me or even distract me from the pain I’m feeling, I am trying by paying more attention to my kids and my grandson but sometimes it gets to me because deep inside I feel that she is not here to share the moment with me or them. Please share or enlighten on the subject.
Thank you guys so very much I am going to find the way to happiness through family, friends, grief and the time needed to heal, God bless everyone.

A: You don’t want to distract yourself from the pain, you need to deal with it or it won’t go away.

I haven’t lost a parent, but I did lose my grandmother some time ago. I find that it helps me deal with the pain when I go to where she was buried, or to her church, and talk to her. I know she may not hear me, but it still helps give me some closure.

Try to remember her fondly so that her memory draws a smile rather than a tear. Don’t try to ignore or forget her.

Q: About the NJ adoption legislation…?
Okay it’s stupid question time and I hope you will all bear (bare?) with me here. It’s late and I will try and make sense.

Today the NJ bill to unseal adoption birth records passed the first step, although it needs to go on to the full NJ senate. I have never paid much attention to these things in the past, but as I get older (adopted in the BSE, did I get that right?) I would like medical info if at all possible, so I have been wondering if this bill will pass and as well as trying to understand it. So I have a few questions…

http://www.nj.com/news/index.ssf/2010/03/nj_senate_panel_approves_bill.html

First, the article said that religious leaders, pro-lifers and the most amazing to me the ACLU have all lobbied against this bill. Why? I mean really, WHY? I honestly don’t get it and was wondering if anyone could enlighten me.

Second, it gives the bmothers 1 year to opt out so as not to be identified, but how is that a possibility if the bill is to restore access to original info and birth certificates? I mean, personally I don’t care, but perhaps I am missing something or not understanding all of it because it then goes on to say that adult adoptees can, in that one year period, get non-identifying medical info from the adoption agency. Well I got my non- identifying info already, specifically because I was hoping there would be medical info, but there was nothing medical in there and is not something I put much faith in as far as it’s truthfulness. It seems redundant for a bill to allow adoptees to do something they could already do, are they suggesting that there is more info that was not shared as far as medical and if so how on earth would we know how reliable the info is? It should be a very simple thing for someone to say okay breast cancer, ovarian cancer or heart disease runs in the family genetics, I don’t think any adoptee actually wants or even deserves identifying medical info and besides we have HIPPA laws that already protect people.

So, I guess I am wondering what is it this bill is supposed to actually accomplish? Will it make biological mothers give info even if they choose to remain anonymous? Because if they can remain anonymous and not provide a basic medical background then this does not seem fair and then not much has changed at all for many adoptees. Maybe I am confusing myself over something that shouldn’t be that confusing at all, maybe I missed something in the bill. I’m not an expert bill reader and the language is tough to understand.

Here is the bill…

http://www.njleg.state.nj.us/2008/Bills/S1000/611_R1.HTM

I know that I have spoken to some adoptees here through e-mail about this already but I need a refresher course. So like I said up top, I hope that made sense, it’s late and I’m tired which is probably not the best time for me to try and make sense of this bill and it’s legal speak. Thanks.
ETA: As far as my first point above, I understand that these groups say they are protecting the rights of birth mothers, but I still don’t get it. So I guess it really wasn’t a question per se, just can’t seem to wrap my head around that is all.

A: From the Daily Bastardette:

* contains a white-out disclosure veto that replaces the original birth certificate with a mutilated copy of the obc with all identifying information, including the address of the parent(s) at the time of birth (if it appears on the cert) deleted.

*requires birthparents who file a disclosure veto to submit an intrusive and probably illegal medical and family history form to activate the veto.

*requires birthparents who file a “contact preference form” to fill out the same intrusive and probably illegal medical and family history form.

*seals by default all “safe haven” birth certificates, even though most “safe haven” babies are born in hospitals to identified mothers.

*requires adoption agencies and adoption lawyers to receive a written veto status report from the state before they can release identifying information to adoptees

*requires the state to mount an “information” campaign to inform birthparents of their “protection” options

Q: Why am I jealous of my sister-in-law?
I guess I know the answer, and I’d like some advice on how to deal with it.

My boyfriend loves his sister so much and a result I love her too. She is a beautiful, funny and strong woman and though I don’t know her that well I really admire and care for her.

I feel torn because on one hand I would love to feel closer to her and understand the connection they share, which I am a bit jealous of.

Also, she now has breast cancer, and it’s tearing me up. In a twisted way I’m jealous of what she’s going through because she’s getting all this support and care/attention from her family, and on the other hand I want to be there to support her and my bf. They’ve started to include me in the process and I’m really happy to be a part of it, but I’m both sad for what’s happening to her and jealous of her.

I don’t know what to do! She’s such a wonderful person and I hope to be closer to her, but I don’t want my jealous feelings to affect our possible friendship/ family relationship. Help!

A: Often we become jealous of the unknown. Simply because we don’t know any better. Our feelings betray our logic. I don’t neccessarily think you’re jealous of her, but rather envy her. I think that you should stop being so hard on yourself. You probably really admire her and would like to be like her. So this intimidates you which brings in the negative feelings. You are good enough. You are beautiful too. Your boyfriend loves you, so you must be special in his eyes. So continue to visit and getting to know her. Don’t let these feelings trick you. In due time this will all be irrelevant. Until then just be you. Be strong for your boyfriend and his family. Funny thing is you may just find out that she thinks just as highly of you. I imagine your boyfriend talks you up like he did her. So really you two only know of eachother from what your boyfriend has spoken.

Don’t let this bother you, you are normal to feel this way. I wish you the best of luck!

Q: what to do…I’m kinda desperate?
i am in a really rough situation in my life right now….I have been someone where I seem to be a magnet for horrible things….I know its silly that I am going to be spilling my feelings out on here, but I don’t really know who else to say it too, my gf and I of a year and a half are in the middle of a breakup and she is usually my special person to go to….

Basically, I live with my mom and I go to college, I was born in new zealand, and watched my parents go through a really rough divorce 6 years ago and my mom took me with her to the United States, My mom and I can’t stand each other, idk why but we can never ever get along and I am never good enough, she is losing her house and stressed all the time and i guess she takes it out on me, ive had 4 father figures enter and leave my life….my best friend died last year in a drunk driving accident, and I was fortunate to meet an amazing girl, she would listen when I was upset and always made everything better, but now I am alone, we are having problems, and her parents are probaly moving….I live so far away from my family, and I rarely ever see them, it is miserable in my house all the time, and I have had major depression issues since I moved to this country and I feel like there’s not much I can do about it…..I get depressed to the point where i burn myself, idk why I do it, but its left some severe scars because I do it pretty bad…i’ve lost most my friends after I left high school and never have time to make any with how busy I am….I want to move back home, but I have way of supporting myself. All the scars I have from burning myself, no one knows that they are self-inflicted, i have to lie and make up reasons why I have them…and I usually do it in places where people cant see

I’m 18 years old, I don’t want anyone to tell me that I need to go find help, because its kinda something is out of reach for me….I have no money to go to doctors, my relationship with my mom is so shitty and she has soooo much to deal with I just can’t do it…she had breast cancer for 2 years and I love her so much, but we cant afford medical bills right now…and I cant pile my problems on her already stressful as hell life.I don’t want to be on medication….i just want to be happy…..i feel silly posting this online, but maybe someone can relate to me.

while I do have all these problems, i’m a straight A student in college obsessing with things helps take my mind off my problems so its a good way to get away from my problems, I know where i want to go in life…I just don’t know what to do for the next 3 years, idk how to hope the all the bs on the way….my life just seems hopeless for now, I burned myself bad on my arm and thigh today, and I havn’t burned myself before that for over 8 months….i know people don’t understand why people hurt themselves, but it makes me feel happy for some reason, idk…I try to be optimistic but its so hard sometimes, life seems to hit me over and over with things whenever things are going well for me

well….i know i look stupid for posting this, or look like an attention seeking moron…but I don’t care, maybe someone nice out there might make me feel better

A: first of all i’m so sorry for your pain. I feel you are suffering from a huge culture shock. wow from NZ to the States. That is a huge move emotionally let alone physically. I’m wondering if perhaps your mom is American because I can’t imagine why she would make such a big move unless she had at least a relative over there or something.
I’m living in Australia myself and my partner is kiwi so I have a fair idea of your culture back in your homeland and how much you must trully miss the beautifull spiritual place, New Zealand.
I can’t give you the sort of advice that can fix it all for you right now because that would just be too radical and impossible anyway. The best thing is to set positive goals for yourself even if they are just mental goals. I’m not sure why you dont get on with your mom cause it does sound like you love her but maybe its just a lack of communication, blame or just a character clash. Either way you only seem to have each other to lean on in this huge country you are both in atm so I would suggest if you can try to communicate with her.
Now you have no money so going back home will have to wait untill you finish your studies and are able to get a job.
Perhaps it’s possible your mom might be feeling homesick too you never know she might be missing NZ too . Find out how she feels, she might want to move back too adn you could both work towards it together.

As far as your burning goes that is like cutting. You are so stressed that burning yourself is a way of getting the pain out. You want to turn the emotional pain into a physical pain so it’s easier to deal with. You just need a friend you can talk to and depend on, I know its easier than said. I hope you find the help you need. I wish I could offer more help.

Q: Who is responsible or is it BOTH their faults? WalMart should STILL be ashamed!!?
The letter I have written below is in response to a situation my mother had with WalMart. Mind you I was VERY upset when I wrote this but it will explain why!!

This is an experience my mother had at WalMart.

Do YOU trust these people to look out for YOU’RE best interests??

Do you REALLY want to give your money to these people after reading what is below?

Whatever happened to taking care of the victim?

I am writing to you about a recent experience my mother had at one of your stores. First of all I say SHAME on you!!

My mother went to your WalMart @ 3579 S. High ST US 23 Columbus Ohio OH 43207 on Oct 26′th between 5 and 7 PM

She went to your electronics dept where she purchased a Garmin GPS system. She used her debit card and the purchase came to around $140. She paid for it in the electronics dept.

Instead of the cashier PHYSICALLY HANDING HER the reciept, he put it in her bag.

My mother CONTINUED with her shopping and made some further purchases. She paid for them and noticed a pumpkin that she wanted to get for my nephew Isaac. She accidently left the Garmin GPS system at the second register and a man in line behind her took off with it. When she went back to the register she was basically told sorry about your luck. Her reciept WAS in the bag!!

She went to customer service for help and they reviewed the tapes. Security AND management SAW the man take off with her bag!! THERE IS PROOF!! IT’S ON TAPE FOR GOD’S SAKE!! Customer service pretty much told her she was screwed and that she should call the cops!! They treated her like a dumbass for leaving her purchase at the register!!

Did they apologize to her? NO!!
Did they say, “Sorry our cashier didn’t PHYSICALLY GIVE you your receupt so we could rectify this.”? NO THEY DID NOT!!
Did they apologize for their SECOND cashier for not paying enough attention that a bag was left? And not paying attention when someone else picked up her bag?
Hell f-ing NO they didn’t!!!
DID THEY OFFER TO CALL THE COPS FOR HER? NO F-ING WAY, SORRY ABOUT YOUR LUCK LADY YOUR A STUPID DUMBASS FOR LEAVING YOUR BAG!!
Now mind you this woman was in shock!! NO ONE did ANYTHING to try and help her!! She proved her case, the debt is on her debit card and all my mom got was a “Thanks for shopping at Walmart, Please come again!!”

Well you know what? I will NEVER go to your store again!! I went there to see if there was anything that could be done. They told me they saw it on tape too, but it’s not their fault my mom is distracted by all their displays, and that she spends tons of money there but they still can’t help her, or that they even pretended to give a damn!! My mother just got over breast cancer a year ago. People who go through chemo have a tendency to be forgetful. I think your store has an OBLIGATION to pay attention to it’s customers and their needs!! I wonder how much merchandise walks out of your store because your employees don’t pay attention? You guy’s owe my mother an apology!! AND her money back!! I will take her elsewhere to purchase her Garmin GPS system and give another company not only the money my mother spends, but all the money I spend as well!! I am also posting this story on my blog, emailing all of my friends, and posting a notice at my job. Don’t be surprised if this story doesn’t get taped up at bus stops, put up on electric poles, and as soon as I find out if I have to have a permit or not, this story will appear on car windshields as well!!

In the meantime YOU can write my mother a letter of apology. I am looking into calling 6 on your side AND the B.B.B.

A former Customer, Melanie

So should WalMart Replace my mothers GPS or just turn their backs on her and say sorry about your luck?
My mother contacted the police and filled out a report. The guys on tape but that doesn’t give his name. I didn’t find out about the situation until 9 day’s after the fact and I guess it hurt my feelings that someone could treat my mother that way!! WALMART put her receipt in her bag or she could have sorted this whole thing out!! My mother is perfectly capable of taking care of herself, but haven’t you ever walked in a room and forgot why you were there? I guess it’s more of the MORAL situation and I still think even if it’s my mothers fault in some opinions that she should have been treated as a victim and not a dumbass who’s got to much money to spend!
Ok, you all have a point. And I DO feel better having vented. I’m not blaming Walmart for my mother getting robbed. Just blaming them for their treatment of her after the fact!! A lot of your answers prove my point. There is no sympathy for the victim anymore!! Walmart should have PHYSICALLY HANDED MY MOTHER HER RECEIPT AND NOT SHOVED IT IN HER BAG AND SHE WOULD HAVE BEEN ABLE TO RECTIFY THE SITUATION A WHOLE LOT EASIER!! SHE HAD TO WAIT FOR BANK STATEMENTS, AND DEAL WITH UNCARING PEOPLE, AND that is why I’m sad……………………….. Whatever happened to the good Samaritan? People who have hearts?

A: No. Wal-Mart has no responsibility to replace your mother’s GPS, nor apologize for her carelessness.

What your mother should do is contact the police department and ask about their “Victims’ Compensation Fund.” They may be able to replace the $140 value of the GPS, and make her “whole.”

The situation was an unfortunate one, but your reaction and letter is a gross overreaction. Yes, you are upset, but the target of your wrath is misplaced and misguided. Rather to be upset at the thief than Wal-Mart. If your car got stolen, would you write a nasty letter to Toyota, or Chevrolet, or whomever the dealer was? That sounds ridiculous, because it IS!

Please learn to place the blame (or responsibility) on the proper parties, and quit blaming those who are not at fault. It is not Wal-Mart’s responsibility to make your mother “whole.”

Have a polite day.

Q: Am i being sexually abused or am i just overreacting?
Plz help me, it happned about half an year ago, i usually like hugging my mom around her breasts for some reason… and i used to sleep with my mom alot, not anymore though(not because of the incident, just need to grow up) anyway… she put my hand on one of her breasts and motioned me or asked me to message or carress them. Well so i did.(i’m not sure if i liked it, but i think i did.) well, somehow it got to doing it skin to skin, i did it for hours on end, my mom never moaned or groaned or never touched ME. She did say however, that even if i can’t touch her breasts, i shouldn’t have sex with other girls. I never really thought about it or particualry cared about the situation. but, i thought it about it, and just enough to get my attention. So i started thinking of the past…

I remember… when i used to be 10, or so, i sometimes took showers with my mom. She said we would have to stop though. I didn’t mind, so i just said fine. Either earlier or later… i forget, i noticed my mom had a scar on the side of her breast, turns out it was from some procedure, just in case it was breast cancer or something. she asked me to kiss it, to make it feel better, i really didn’t think much of it at the time so out of love, i kissed it.

in the first paragraph, it also happend when she was a couple of days way from leaving the state, (i’m in the usa btw) she’d come back sometime, but we’ve always went to visit her. hopfully we’d live together again…. she also said before the incident that i said lets make love or somethin, i do not remember saying that and she was completely appaled when she confronted me.

When we visted her, i tried to touch her breasts again for some reason… but not sure why, she motioned my hand away, and so i did. another time we visited, i was about to take a shower, and she came in with my clothes and asked me if she could see my pubic hair. i was “SLIGHTLY” unconfortable but, i was like, its my MOM. so i showed her for a second and proceeded with my shower.

I would just like to know if i’m being sexually abused or is she just being a mom, curious and worried about my growth and puberty?

I can only think of my mom as being curious and just worried about my growth… but….

(yea, the BUT….)

thanks for reading… please reply soon…
about the shower when i was 10, it really only started and ended between 9:1/2 maybe and 101/2 or something….

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about the shower when i was 10, it really only started and ended between 9:1/2 maybe and 101/2 or something….

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for the first paragraph, it happend one time and i was either late 12 or early 13.
even.. though all comment as of now say my mom’s been abusing me… i really don’t want to see it that way….
for the second addition detail i meant to say age 9 1/2 to 10 1/2 …. and… is there an online chat i could go to to cope with the problem?….

A: Your mom letting you touch her breasts for hours and showering with her until you were 10 is not normal. When she asked to see your pubic hairs, you should’ve asked her why. I feel bad for you because it seems you really trusted your mom. You trusted her enough to not even ask her why she was doing these things. You just trusted that it was for your own good. Maybe you should seek counseling to help you come to terms on what has happened. Questioning your mom may not do any good, she may be in denial.

I was molested by my brother when I was 8. He asked me to touch his penis and just like you touched your moms breast, I touched his penis. Just like you, I can’t say if I liked it or not. I think I was curious and thats why I allowed it to happen. However, he later tried to have sex with me and my Mom caught him in the act. I was 8, I knew nothing about sex, he was 13, he knew better. However, the whole family just ignored the situation. It never happened again, but I always wondered why he would do that to me.

Q: Anxiety problems: Is it normal or do I really have a problem?
I’m a naturally nervous person. Ever since I was little I would worry about things. But lately my anxiety has gotten worse, so bad to the point where it leaves me frantic tears. I’m 16 years old. My anxiety is probably my number 1 stress-or. I’ve lost sleep, I have lost my appetite to the point where I will only eat a snack a day to possibly not eating for a few days. I cant concentrate on anything I’ve had to stay home from school because I was vomiting, but I wasn’t sick. My Health teacher says that over stressing/worrying makes the acid in your stomach overwork, and it could possibly be why I throw up. Alot of te things I worry about are out of my control. At first I had this crazy fear of men, even though I’m heterosexual and I would get really scared if a car was to close to me, or if a man came by me. Now my recent big fear is the end of my life. 2 months ago I was afraid I had neurofibromisis, than a week later I was afriad I had breast cancer, and now I’m worried that my ganglion cysts are dangerous, even though my doctor expected them 3 different times and said I was fine. They dont hurt, one of them even went away, so why am I still parinoid? And now I’m afriad of the 2012 theory amoungst other things. I stay couped up in my room from the anxiety, and I can easily be pushed to a crying fit, but if I tell my parents they say I’m fine and I dont need meds that I just need somthing to do. But I dont know, I tell my Health teacher and says he thinks I have a sever anxiety problem. I would do anything to get rid of this, it’s stopping me from doing a lot and no mater what I do I cant get it to go away. And my family’s sorta poor, we cant afford a therapist, although my teacher says I should see one O_O. My mother’s family has a history of anxiety disorders too, which adds another problem. I bite my nails alot, like alot like bleeding point (embaressed) And not too long ago I had a break up with my best friend of 10 years, so now I’m afriad to make new friends, and my other friends have brought to my attention that I’m avoiding people to the best extent, that I hang out in the library too much, away from other people. If a boy ever asks me out I say no, even if I sorta like them just because of my weird fear of rapists and predotors. I sound nuts, I know I do but I cant help it. Half the things I worry about people laugh at, they think i’m ridiculous. Should I get help? If so can anyone give notice of any kind of medication I can buy in the store that isn’t perscribed by a personal doctor? Maybe even a list of things I can do to help my anxiety? Please help!

A: Well my number one recommendation would be to see a psychiatrist who would probably describe a combination of anti-anxiety meds along with an ssri like zoloft, prozac, etc. There isn’t really anything over the counter that I know of to help. Other things you can do is look into meditation and breathing techniques. Unfortunately this sounds like a problem that is going to progress rather than go away so you really need to seek some sort of help, it seems like you have obsessive anxiety/ (mild) paranoia but a doctor could really help more than anyone on here can. Above all just talking to people who can understand can help. If you have any other questions email me at norcalsurfer01@mac.com

Q: i really hate my sun sign?
i’m a Cancer sun, Sag moon, Scorpio rising and i hate being a Cancer, if i could change it, i’d want to be a Leo or a Scorpio, those signs with so much attitude and definition. i was almost a Leo, my mother’s due date was August the 20th but that damn doctor had to make me a Cancer by inducing her i was born on july 11th, well away from the cusp.so here are some reasons why i don’t want to be a Cancer:
1) we are stereotyped as moody, and i actually do get like that, it gets in the way of my life when i am, and irritates the hell out of my family.
2) we are stereotyped as wimpy and/or depressed.
3) celebrity cancers include: Jessica Simpson, Lindsay Lohan, Pamela Anderson and Tom Criuse- those people are perceived in the media as attention-seeking types that just irritate alot, Lindsay Lohan is quite hated at the moment, and Jessica Simpson is percieved as dumb (remember, the “buffalo wings” thing??) , Pamela Anderson is pretty much self-explainitory and Tom Criuse pays a fake religion. so i challenge you to come up with some intelligent, cool cancers
4) we cancer women our described in our “appearance” as being quote- “usually having a double chin”, “curvy” and with “big breasts” according to some astrology websites.
5) we are stereotyped as lazy and sometimes dumb (thanks to our *intelligent* celebrity “examples”) homebodies, obsessed with family life, wanting to have lots of kids and get hitched as soon as we can.

i feel quite ashamed of these descriptions……i think i’ll just hide behined my scorpio rising, hoping that my cancer side will never show, is that possible?
will my actual birthdate (August 20th) give me some Leo traits?? i already have Leo in mercury..
another bad thing about being a cancer: we are named after an incurable disease!
aquarian babii: i’m not emo at all- just cause a girl has dark hair and fair skin, and doesn’t like her starsign, doesn’t make her emo, i can’t stand them actually…

A: Firstly,you’re sun sign is definitely not Cancer. You’re a Leo (July 23 to August 22). You are taking this astrology thing to hard on yourself. Don’t let astrology rule you! Yes, astrology is partially true but don’t let it ruin your individuality. Since you’re a Leo, go on an astrology website and read up on your sun sign (remember, everything it will say about you will not be true). In fact, there are some really good Cancer celebs out there like Sylvester Stallone and Ashley Tisdale.

Above all, DON’T LET ASTROLOGY RULE WHO YOU ARE.

Q: Am i being sexually abused or am i just overreacting?
This is a repeat of my past question… i’m trying to get some help and get info from a variety of people, i’m sorry i’m causing spam.

Plz help me, it happned about half an year ago, i usually like hugging my mom around her breasts for some reason… and i used to sleep with my mom alot, not anymore though(not because of the incident, just need to grow up) anyway… she put my hand on one of her breasts and motioned me or asked me to message or carress them. Well so i did.(i’m not sure if i liked it, but i think i did.) well, somehow it got to doing it skin to skin, i did it for hours on end, my mom never moaned or groaned or never touched ME. She did say however, that even if i can’t touch her breasts, i shouldn’t have sex with other girls. I never really thought about it or particualry cared about the situation. but, i thought it about it, and just enough to get my attention. So i started thinking of the past…

I would just like to know if i’m being sexually abused or is she just being a mom, curious and worried about my growth and puberty?

I can only think of my mom as being curious and just worried about my growth… but….

(yea, the BUT….)

thanks for reading… please reply soon…
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about the shower when i was 10, it really only started and ended between 9:1/2 maybe and 101/2 or something….

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about the shower when i was 10, it really only started and ended between 9:1/2 maybe and 101/2 or something….

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for the first paragraph, it happend one time and i was either late 12 or early 13.
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even.. though all comment as of now say my mom’s been abusing me… i really don’t want to see it that way….
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for the second addition detail i meant to say age 9 1/2 to 10 1/2 …. and… is there an online chat i could go to to cope with the problem?….
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about… the time when she put my hand on her breasts… i belive that it was because she wanted to satisfy my curiosity……

A: I know that you don’t want to see it as your mom is sexually abusing you, but she is. Face reality. In the best interest of you and your mental state you should probably contact a counselor, even if you have to start with a school counselor. It sounds like you need someone to talk to. The way she is acting is not the ways of a loving mother. You really need to tell someone!!!
Here is a site for a chat room you can use to help: http://www.fortrefuge.com/Childsexabusearticle.html

Here are some links you can look at that will help you:
* http://www.nctsnet.org/nccts/nav.do?pid=typ_sa_prom
* http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_abuse#Child_sexual_abuse (look specifically in the sexual abuse category)
* http://nctsn.org/nctsn_assets/pdfs/caring/ChildSexualAbuseFactSheet.pdf

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